To overcome trauma demands that we realize that we are fully responsible for our own health and that we are our own healer. Working together with a specialized trauma-therapist is wise, and I seriously recommend it. It will make your path of recovery a lot easier. To heal those things is a conscious and important choice you make for yourself. It means that you regain power over your own life.
It is natural for people who have experienced trauma to feel a certain anger, together with the grief. It is therefore important to speak with a therapist, to receive support to overcome that anger. Again, this is a conscious choice to make along the path: because what you do want is peace and healing for yourself and your life. You deserve a better life, and this is the path to it. Have compassion and patience with yourself always.
Yes, I walked this path myself and therefore I know how difficult these steps can be. But allow me to encourage you here: it is worth it, and you do deserve the best. Healing is possible here (gently, step by step), and you will soon discover a new quality of life. You can do this too, and you are never alone on this path.
It can happen that we walk through life repressing for many years our feelings of grief and anger. Then, they manifest as depression and health issues - because these feelings need healing.
Sometimes, a loss we have experienced is maybe not when someone died, but when someone we loved suddenly walked away and never came back. A painful loss can have many different forms. It is still a loss that may need time for mourning.
To be free and let go of the past, it is important to consciously process all those feelings, with loving compassion for yourself. This will help you to close that chapter and then move forward with your life. Grief does need time, please be mindful and patient with yourself.
You will find this book very helpful for these steps: Restored, A Self-Paced Grief Workbook for Your Journey from Loss to Life.
Another precious book for this is this: Healing and Recovery, by Dr. David Hawkins.
Feel free to write me, if you wish to talk about these steps.
with loving compassion,