Please make sure to first read this blog text I wrote for a better understanding.
The wounds left by childhood traumas aren’t easy to heal. Often there is a lot of old shame and guilt in those memories - they are robing a big part of the joy of life.
With this message, I would like to encourage you that it is possible to move beyond these experiences. Especially in dysfunctional families, when becoming an adult, every healing work you do is very precious for your own path. It all will help you to create a beautiful life for yourself.
You can learn to move forward and find new strength for your own healing. You can now learn to set healthy boundaries for yourself. You can restore your confidence and free yourself from all those old burdens. Please know that you can receive support for all these kind of situations.
Often, good people make compromises, they tolerate many things, out of old fears of conflicts. People tolerate too often bad behaviors from others, with the excuse that "they are family". But with time, those silent compromises can become a burden and lead to a lot of repressed anger.
People who truly love you will always talk to you with respect, loving kindness, compassion, and appreciation. People who love you will always respect your boundaries and treat you with consideration. It is important to surround yourself with quality people who are willing to support you on your path of life.
There is a simple way to find out if you are spending your precious time with the right people: how do you feel after a conversation with them? The right people help you to feel good about yourself. The right people speak about positive things such as faith, motivation and confidence with you. True friends make you feel good about yourself in every meeting and the conversations with them are uplifting. But if you feel bad and worse after every encounter with some people, it may be time to think about setting healthy boundaries.
One important point to think about: those who grew up in dysfunctional families rarely received the loving comfort they needed as a child. This is an old grief many carry in their hearts. These things also need to be healed, so you can live a fulfilling life as an adult.
You deserve to be happy, healed and free. You can create a beautiful life for yourself. You deserve to have a circle of loving friends who support you on your path.
These kind of books can give you new motivation: Living by Grace.
Please feel free to write me, if you have any questions about this topic.