Yes, we are talking about the feelings of shame and guilt here.
These feelings can ruin your life in many different ways if you're too gentle. They're often well hidden and work in the background of your consciousness. They sabotage your self-esteem, make you feel bad about yourself and hinder you to manifest abundance, a career, or find a new lifepartner. If you have these emotions in your energy field, you probably wonder why you fail over and over again in different areas of your life.
Since I started working with people as a coach and healer (long before I built this website), I have seen these patterns sabotaging people's life in many different ways. Good people who lack of self-worth. Intelligent people who struggle with their career. Adorable people who live alone and who are filled with self-doubts. And the worst: people who even get physically sick because of their old feelings of shame and guilt.
Feelings of shame and guilt work on different levels and in different forms. It needs serious work to get them out of your energy fields.
The first type of the feeling of guilt is the natural one: you know you did something wrong, some-thing that has hurt another person. To free yourself from that feeling of guilt, you do your best to repair the mistake: You apologize from your heart, you repair everything you have broken. It also helps when you say prayers for all people involved in that situation.
Here it's also important to forgive yourself, because otherwise you stay blocked. Once you have truly done all your best to repair and to apologize, you have paid your dues. Let it go. It is not your responsibility, if others refuse to forgive. Nobody can ask and expect more from you, than that you do all your best and give everything you can to repair the mistake.
There is then this 2nd type of feelings of guilt, which can be even worse: it is the feeling of guilt that others have put on you, even you really did nothing wrong. There are people who are able to talk others into feelings of guilt and shame, as soon as one didn't fulfill their expectations.
The worst is if these kind of situations happened during childhood. Then, the feelings of guilt and shame really need conscious healing work.
It is typical that people who didn't get their needs or expectations fulfilled, will blame the other person for their own frustration. They make others feel bad and this is kind of manipulative. If a person is not strong enough to set healthy boundaries there, this can sabotage its self-worth more than one can imagine. The one who feels guilty soon also feels unworthy...
One area where I often hear this, is with people who try to recover from a separation or a divorce: one ex-partner blames the other for anything and everything. Within a few week, this one will feel so bad about himself, that all the self-esteem is gone. It is a fact that people who suddenly struggle with feelings of guilt also lose their natural strength in other areas of their life.
You now understand why it is important to free yourself from feelings of guilt and shame: they hinder you on your path to a fulfilling life.
People who struggle with feelings of guilt (even they didn't do anything wrong) and shame, they also struggle with abundance, with self-worth and with situations in their job. It is then my role as a coach to help them get rid of those feelings of guilt and shame.
The changes are amazing, especially when they discover how much these pattern influenced all the other areas of their life. People truly get back their joy of life, once they got rid of the energies of guilt.
I hope this helps a little bit.
Feel free to write me if you wish some more help with this.
With Love and Light,
Jeanne Jessica A.