How do we react, when our plans don't work out? Often, we start feeling angry, or fears come up. Then, we feel frustrated. If the situation is about a relationship with another person, we feel disappointed because our expectations were not fulfilled. Maybe we thought we can plan feelings... - but by doing so, how much do we really follow our own heart?
To make it all worse, we sometimes believe we have to struggle and begin to plan new strategies to turn situations around; because we can't let go of our plan. Some then begin arguing with people in their own working teams or with family members. That is when conflicts turn into battle fields: the ego did not get what it wanted.
A part of us feels uncomfortable when a plan changes, because we never want to leave the comfort zone. It feels good in the comfort zone. It feels safe there. Leaving the comfort zone makes a part of us feel vulnerable. That is why there is a natural resistance to changes.
As long as we were living in survival mode, this was our normal way of living and thinking. We planned, what was called a logical plan, f.ex. for the career. But the question is: was that plan made out of fear, with the goal to prevent and to protect? Or was the plan made out of a feeling of trust, in alignment with the heart, and with others? This is how many of us lived, before we discovered that there is another way to approach life... one that truly changes things. There is a difference between plans we make out of fear, and plans we make out of our heart, out of love and joy.
Sometimes, even when plans worked out really good and we are living happily, there comes a time when we have to grow spiritually. Our Soul wants to do a new step and we have to expand our consciousness. Then, it is time to let go of an old plan and be open for changes.
Many of us had certain plans for a career and for other areas of life. When we get older and look back, we realize that many things didn't work out the way we planned. Maybe you even saw things falling apart, in ways you never thought it could be possible. Some felt heartaches and deep sadness. Sometimes one felt like a failure. Until you learned to let go. Then, you are able to discover something far more beautiful.
When things fall apart and you see that your plans don't work out the way you thought, you have two choices: resistance and try to control things with the intellect, or acceptance. We can't control economy, the weather and similar things. But we can choose how we react. We can choose to react with anger, or we can choose to turn inward, to our Divine Self, and ask for Divine Guidance. No worries, we all who walk the spiritual path, we all experience this.
It can take a while until we feel enough trust in order to step out of the old survival mode. That is normal. Depending on what we have experienced, this step needs more time for one. It is normal to feel frustrated, angry or disappointed, when we have to let go of certain plans. Maybe we had those dreams since we were a child and we were sure we would get there. Therefore, we were really attached to that plan or that goal. The greater the attachment, the deeper the grief. Give yourself all the time you need to let go..., but make sure you still move forward.
When we accept that a plan will not come to pass, we can ask the question: "Ok, so this is not the plan. Then, what is the potential, the new path?" But this time, we do not ask our intellect. No, this time we ask this question within our heart to our Soul, to our Higher Divine Self. And then, we stay open for new possibilities to enfold in front of us.
The difference then is that when we can trust our Divine Self, we are guided and attract different situations. We know that our inner Divine Guidance is taking care and that good things are now coming our way. We are now living from the heart. What if your Soul has some great plans for you, and you soon find out you have talents and gifts to express, but you had no idea about them?
Maybe, our inner guidance tries to contact us since years. Sometimes with physical symptoms. Sometimes with feelings of sadness or confusion. Our Higher Divine Self only wants our best; but when we are too busy with our own plans, we can't discover the Divine Plan for our life. And most of the time, there is something better, something more fulfilling waiting for us.
As long as you are holding on to your own ideas, you can't see the potentials that could unfold for you. What if it is so beautiful that you did not dare to dream of it for yourself, because you simply did not yet feel worthy? Maybe an old lack of self-worth hindered you all those years to live your greater potentials. And, you can allow yourself to receive them now?
When we let go of our own plan, our hands are free and open to receive new gifts from that great Divine Guidance. There is now an inner wisdom we can hear. That inner wisdom comes from the Divine Realms, from our Divine Source. Often, we are then guided to new places and meet new people. New doors open for us: doors that we did not see up to now, because we were too busy with our old plan. Now that we have let go of our own ideas, there are endless new possibilities and divine potentials in front of us.
When we are living in alignment with our own Divine Plan, we feel more calm and less tired. Things happen effortlessly for us. There is less resistance and less struggles. Because when we are living with the Divine Plan, we are automatically acting for the highest good of all, in harmony with the world around us.
We are then living from the heart, from the Soul, and no longer from our intellect (or fears). Our Soul is who we truly are and that awareness gives us access to a new wisdom that is free of limitations. We can feel that we are in the flow with the Love of our Divine Source.
And so, we discover a new state of being.
Yes, this is also about trust. A trust and knowing that there is a benevolent Divine Source who deeply loves You. I know that for some people, this feeling of that trust is easier than for others. It is healing for you if you can practice this, until it becomes natural again.
Blessings and Light to You,