One always has to find a way to take the time to do very consciously all the steps of the grief. It doesn't change anything, nor helps when people then give advices such as „Let go.“ or „It's the past.“, or phrases like that. Those who have experienced the loss of a beloved one, know there are no right words that could help to heal that pain. It can be difficult to let go a partner or a family member, especially when one is still young.
Those who left and who loved you, for sure, they would like you to be happy again. They would never want you to be sad, to be lonely or feel alone. Therefore, they would want you to begin a new life, to be happy with a new partner. When enough time passed, you have to come to the point where you accept that he/she has gone. After the time of grief, you make the conscious choice to continue to live your own life. You really owe that to yourself too.
To be able to make a new start, you find a way to go through the different steps of the grief. If necessary, you repeat those steps many times, until you're able to fully accept it all. Never hesitate to ask for help for this; do this together with a friend, or with a coach. Please get yourself always real help for this special time, do not stay alone with your grief. Allow others to help you with this, ask them for help!
When I was looking for answers in those times, I read spiritual books from different spiritual teachers. I found the idea of reincarnation and similar spiritual teachings somehow helpful.
In some situations, these spiritual teachings explain that it has to do with "karma", that only
the Higher Divine Guidance knows the specific duty that a Soul has in a certain lifetime.
Then, I was finally able to accept things as they were. After I learned all that, I was able to
let go, to make peace and to move on.
In those spiritual teachings, we learn that we hurt ourselves if we fight against those events. Nobody can control these things. It helps, when we then look at the situation from a higher perspective: We can't control the way or the moment when a Soul decides to leave Earth.
It really is their own choice and therefore we must respect it, as we do respect them.
It is written that only the Higher Divine Self knows about the plans for the Souls journey.
Because we respect the other Soul, we accept it when they choose to leave Earth. We respect them and their choices, therefore we are able to accept it, to make peace with it. If we really
love them, in the same way we do respect and accept their decision. We really have to do this.
We can send them our love, we can say prayers and ask for Divine Blessings for them.
We can always ask the Divine Angels to guide them on their path.
This is the greatest service we can do for them.
There are also spiritual teachings that explain that it is very important to let them go in peace, not to hold them back. Those teachings explain us that in order to allow the other Soul to move on, our acceptance of their departure is very helpful and truly important for them too.
Yes, it is a tough lesson of life. Acceptance is the key word for healing here.
At the same time, it is also a reminder to share more love
and to really appreciate our beloved ones every day.
Always remember: those who love you, they wish that you are happy.
And even they left, they do want you to have a beautiful fulfilling life.
You know that they would like to see you living happily.
They would like you to make the best of your own life.
I hope this gives you a little comfort.
With Love and Light,
Jeanne Jessica A.