The internet has changed the world and economics in the last 15 years. It is well known that most of people are too often online, constantly worried about all their social media profiles. For young but also older people, the one and only new goal is to focus on "must proof that I am successful" in all areas of life; and then to show this on all their social media profiles...
But if you ask such a person about their real state of feeling, they will answer you that they feel alone and empty. It is a constant stress to keep up with all those online trends. And this is what is exhausting most people so much. It is an ego identification with a short-term high because for one hour one gets a lot of attention, and that creates that well-known addiction.
Real true Love has nothing to do with getting a lot of attention for one short moment online
in the internet... A big quantity of likes has nothing to do with the real appreciation you share in true long term friendships in your daily life. You really don't need to prove anything to anybody.
Walking this path of digital illusions is challenging for the emotional stability and mental health. Not only for young people, but for all people of any age. More and more people are addicted to their daily wanna-be-super-special-perfect online profiles. They are unaware how seriously they are loosing themselves and their emotional health in their own digital addictions.
True, it is all about is setting conscious boundaries... It is about becoming truly aware of what it is you really want for yourself from all your different online activities. What are your real goals? What are your real intentions? You don't want to waste your precious time by random.
Yes, I've observed that we can actually set certain digital boundaries. It takes some discipline, but it is possible. First, I have uninstalled as many apps as possible. The less apps you have on your cellphone, the more peace you have during your day. And I only answer emails during certain time frames. Some friends first had to get used to this from me. I've decided not to be available, when they expect me answering their messages within the next five minutes. Trust me, they all will get used to it. And of course, I let the voicemail answer many phone calls.
People say that what is the greatest pressure for them, is that with the new smartphones and tablets, so many expect of each other to be reachable all the time. Too many feel that they "must" be reachable all the time. But how much of all this do you really "must"? Are you answering and reacting to every call, every message within two minutes, all the time? How good does this really feel to you? Is there really a need to be available 24/7, or are they abusing of your kindness? This is where you'll get your power back.
You can make certain changes. I now call it digital discernment, and it feels pretty good to me. No longer reacting to every sound that a smartphone does. No longer answering to every demand within two minutes. Stepping away from that digital highway. Those who truly love you will respect your digital boundaries too. Those people who really appreciate you, they also prefer meeting you in real life to spend more quality time together.
Yes, I've decided I no longer participate in certain websites. I've deleted most of my social media profiles and pictures. What a relief, what a peace, what a relaxation. After a serious check, I made some choices on what kind of websites were really necessary for me, my career and my daily life. It's interesting to make a difference between what really serves us, and what doesn't.
Choose consciously where it is you participate online. Yes, I appreciate certain websites for their groups where you can meet and share with likeminded people about the same hobby. All good, there are very interesting, helpful and wonderful groups.
Use your own discernment on what really matters for your daily life. Does that website give you new energy, new inspiration? Does it help you to feel good about yourself, is it uplifting and make your life easier? (What are the real intentions that people are bringing to that website? Does it serve the higher good of all, and are there solutions that serve a local community?)
Many people participate in internet activities by random, without being aware of what it is they are really looking for. They are giving away their power and time to useless gossip for many hours each day. Then, you hear them say that they feel chronically exhausted and tired - but they will not lay down their tablets or smartphones for two hours to go out into nature. It is an addiction.… and here, you have to make changes if you really wish to stay healthy.
Be mindful about your own intentions in your online activities, this will help you to stay balanced and relaxed.... Wouldn't it be so much nicer to meet real friends in real life, sitting together around a table with some coffee?
Yes, it is helpful and somehow important to make a conscious choice for yourself: how much of your precious lifetime do you wish to spend online in the internet, and how much of it do you wish to spend with what the (offline) world out there has to offer to you? Yes, it is healthier for your physical and mental stability to go for a walk in nature, and to meditate.
Whatever your Higher Divine Self has in store for you, it will come to you and into your life, even if you are offline for a few weeks. Your Divine Source always knows how to bring to you everything you need. Simply relax and allow all those good things to come to you by themselves... :-)
with Love and Light,
Jeanne