Therefore, let's see what one can do to feel better about a breakup:
Letting go is a conscious choice you make. Remember: you do have control over your feelings. Yes, nobody else but you alone decides how you feel, how you react. You can react with all possible emotions and make yourself feel worser than necessary. Or, you can react with wisdom and leave your ego out of the whole situation. This is when you simply decide to accept the situation as it is.
Then, ask yourself what else helps you to feel better: does it help you to feel better if you both go into blaming each other for all possible mistakes you made? No, of course not. So then why would you even want to go there?
Yes, you can separate from your partner in total peace and serenity, without any drama. It just depends, what you decide to focus on. If you focus on the beautiful times you spend together, and you both continue to feel appreciation for the love you shared, you can separate in peace. If possible, meet with your partner for a respectful separation, where you both thank each other for the time and love you shared. Or write a letter, if this helps you to say good-bye and let go.
Do not destroy all the beautiful moments, the love, the romance, the joy you shared together by only talking and complaining about small events that were less good. I know, sometimes this is easier said than done. Stay focused on the 98% that were good, if you wish to continue to feel good.
Criticising your ex-partner is a complete no-go, 'cause that lowers your vibrations, which would only attract new drama in your life. People who blame and criticize their ex-partners too often, will end up feeling bitter. The last thing your new partner wants to hear are bad stories about your ex. Stay respectful, in all situations. Talk with kindness and keep your focus on the qualities you once loved in your partner.
Give yourself enough time to heal after the breakup. It is wise to spend some time alone, before starting with a new relationship. Make sure you keep feelings of appreciation for the last relationship, because this will raise your vibration higher.
If you are honest, you know that you do not want to be around a person who doesn't love you, right? Therefore, even if a breakup is not a funny time, try to think about your future: what you really want, is a partner who does truly love and appreciate you for who you are, right? It is the best to forgive and let go what happened, in order to be totally free and open for a new partner.
You had a difficult breakup and you feel hurt? Then, the best thing you can do now is to raise your self-love. Be your own best friend, be your own best partner. Go into meditation and focus on your oneness with your own Divine Self - this step is the key to a fast healing after a breakup. Connect with your own Divine Soul, focus on your Divine Source, this will help you recover.
Be patient with yourself and your ex-partner during the time of separation. Have compassion now more than anything else. Separations can bring other old, unhealed wounds and fears to surface. Make sure you get the help of some friends during this special time.
Acceptance is one of the best ways to deal with a painful breakup. Breakups are part of life. People sometimes decide to leave a relationship, and there is really nothing one can do about it. The good news is: the sooner you let go, the sooner your hands are free to welcome your new partner.
There is a quote that says that we should let go those who decide to leave us, and trust that there are plenty of people who will be happy to love us. Therefore, be the first to see your own qualities and your value and love yourself - then you can be sure that there are plenty of wonderful people who will see your qualities and your value too.
With Love and Light,